WARNING: This post contains mature content and may not be suitable for everyone. Anyone offended by common sense and logic or frank discussions about sex should not read the following. Also, anyone not willing to accept what they learn about me shouldn’t read any further, either.
There is a debate happening in America on sex education (and, more broadly, education in general). I want to, herein, offer my viewpoints about, specifically, sex education.
When I was a kid, and sex ed came up, the teachers separated us by sex and we watched a video about the physical body and the mechanics of intercourse. A lot of the video focused on how to raise a child and taking on the male gender role as the sole worker in the family. I think the video was produced in the 1950′s or something. (I watched it in the 1980′s).
It was also rather one-sided when it came to gender roles. It talked about how, as a male, I was expected to be the sole money-maker in the family, while my wife stayed home and kept house. It even, honest to Ghost, said I was to expect my wife to serve me when I was watching football or other sporting events since I, apparently, had a rough day at work.
Personally, I don’t fit into the strict male gender role. I never have and I never will. And I certainly won’t be bullied into a male gender role if I don’t want one.
The teachers, in a bold move, decided to let us watch the female video and the females got to watch the male video. This generated a lot of discussion, which, true to form, the teachers quashed as fast as possible. I didn’t understand why that was, honestly. They’re the ones who decided to show us the female video. What the hell did they expect from a room full of males?
Both videos were full of fear mongering about sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancy. The female video in particular almost terrorized the viewer with the possibility of getting pregnant. It was a fine example of the hate towards the female sex that is so rampant in American culture.
The message was simple: Don’t Have Sex. In other words, abstinence only sexual education. Oral and anal sex wasn’t covered, either. Just plain vanilla missionary position sex.
And, of course, it only focused on straight sex. As someone who was interested in both sexes for sexual partners, there was nothing covering same-sex pairings. No instructions for safe anal intercourse; no instructions for safe oral sex. Nothing.
This lack of information kept me from experimenting and learning anything about same-sex sex for a few years, but I fixed that on my own. I know there are some who would applaud this, and that’s fine. But, remember, this lack of education means just that: a lack of education. It means our children are entering into a world without all the knowledge they need to properly function. This willful ignorance is damaging and could lead to some real problems down the road.
And this exposed a clear problem with American sex education programs.
One Size Does not Fit All
Our children need to learn about sex. Eventually, they are going to take their clothes off and touch each other. This drive is hardwired into our biology and saying, “Ew! Sex is bad! Don’t do it, unless you are married!” is a just plain naïve approach. People are going to have sex. Accept that fact. I, for one, hope they know how to do it properly.
Some would argue that teaching same-sex sex education causes kids to become gay. Let me clue you in on something you clearly haven’t figured out yet: gay people are born gay. There is nothing in the ‘verse that can make someone gay or straight if they weren’t born that way. No amount of so-called “reparative therapy” (or praying) is going to make a gay person straight and no amount of gay sex-ed is going to make someone gay. It’s best if you understand this now, as it will make your life a lot easier later on.
Adding same-sex sex education into the curriculum wouldn’t be that hard. Since we already segregate by sex, why not segregate further by orientation?
Straight boys are shown the “straight male” video, while gay boys are shown the “gay male” video. The same for straight girls and lesbians. Much of the information in the two sets of videos would be the same, though they would, by necessity, cover their specialized topics. Birth control and prevention would be highlighted in the curriculum, as well, with demonstrations on how to use a condom.
Society Needs to Change, First
Of course, our society, as it is constructed, would need to adapt to account for these changes. Certain, parochial, members of our society would stand in the way of these changes, seeing them as “bad” and “dangerous,” usually citing the religious dogma of their choice to withhold and prevent any sort of true growth, culturally speaking. Such people would prefer the society stayed firmly under the control of the Church and not in the hands of the people, where it belongs.
The major change which needs to take place, therefore, is the impeachment of the so-called “moral majority.” That is, people who believe their faith gives them the right to limit or withhold information from society.
Somehow, these people have gotten it into their heads they have the right to tell everyone else how to live their lives and who to love. This is the greatest evil a person can inflict on another person, in my view.
If you truly want to prevent abortions (or, rather, lower the number of abortions) don’t make them illegal. Teach children about safe-sex. Put a condom on before you get up in Sally’s guts, so you don’t get her pregnant. Do her that favor, guys. After all, she’s allowing you your fun. Don’t ruin hers.
Does abstinence work to prevent abortions? Sure does.
Are people always going to practice abstinence? No way in hell. Simply put, people are going to have sex. (Remember that biology stuff I mentioned? It’s to blame.)
Wear a condom to prevent unwanted pregnancies and STD’s. That is the real sex education.
I look forward to your comments.